‘At Least You’re Young Enough to Start Again’: What Not to Say to a Friend Getting Divorced at Thirty
‘It Paints My Sexuality as a Phase’: Why I’ve Always Found ‘Barsexuality’ Troubling as a Bisexual Woman
‘Barsexuality’ is a term that should have stayed on 2010 Tumblr, but I’ve been carrying it around like a cursed object since I was fifteen. Drunk on a Nalgene full of vodka, I’d confessed my love for the female drummer in my high school band. I had expected my ‘out’ friend Melanie to catch the secret and protect it fiercely, but there was apparently no secret to keep. I was barsexual not bisexual. I was Madison and Louise in Gilmore Girls, kissing each other so men would buy them drinks…
‘Single Friend Who Gives Great Advice? That’s Me’: Dating as a Late Bloomer and Why it’s OK to Take Your Time
I’ve always found myself enamoured by the idea of love and romance – the effect of someone who binged too many romantic comedies and read even more books. After a while, there reached a point where the love I would read and watch on screen seemed to be a distant fantasy for myself. Since dating never came naturally to me, I came to believe that I might not ever get it, or at least not in the way I truly wanted…
Making Friends as a Young Woman in My Early Twenties
It’s odd using Bumble BFF and going on ‘friend dates’ with people who are in the same position. You’d think it would be somewhat easier to go on a first date with a potential friend. Instead I’m beyond nervous, sweaty-palmed with shaking hands, worrying about whether or not they will like me. Seeking validation from a potential friend feels more stressful than when you’re on an actual first date with a potential love interest…